Nothing is more frustrating than when you realise that your inability to get something done is because of anxiety. For years I sat by and watched my love life blown to smithereens because I was afraid to put my self out there. You know the saying “comfortable doing nothing…” that was me through and through. I was just in my funk and quite happy being there until I realise I was comfortable because I was afraid. Here are 5 Ways Dating Helped Me Overcome My Social Anxiety
5 Ways Dating Helped Me Overcome My Social Anxiety
1. DATING FORCED ME TO SOCIALIZE.
Clubbing was never my scene however my bestie was a real “road dog” and she pulled me along. You will be surprised how unseen you can go in a crowded loud space like a club. Eventually, I warmed up and formed friendships, through those friends I met a guy that became my boyfriend for over 2 years who taught me more than I knew
2. MY FOCUS SHIFTED AWAY FROM MYSELF.
You will be surprised the amount of time you think about your demise and get anxious because it is not changing. I did not realise how much I di think about not dating or not having a boyfriend until my focused shifted into making plans to go out. I started making date plans with said boyfriend along with other friends. My night time clubbing turned to brunch on Sundays, movies on Tuesday and even ice cream on random days with just about any friend.
3. GETTING OUT BOOSTED MY CONFIDENCE.
The more I went out its the more I felt confident in myself. I started practising a little more self-care and we all know how that will get your blood pumping. Picking up new hobbies also helped. I started learning about wine and cheese and dived into that
4. I MADE NEW FRIENDS.
Friendship is a lot deeper for me than most, none-the-less a formulated strong bonds with other females I could confide in and feel like apart of the gang. Through those friends, I got business opportunities a boatload of motivation for my blogs. Here is the funny thing, I always thought I was too old to meet new friends, however
5. OVERANALYZING EVERYTHING IS CRAZY THOUGHTS.
When I was out in public, I assumed that every glance, every frown was a dig at me when in reality, most people weren’t even thinking about me at all. That was crazy thoughts, peoples own lives are their main priority. Little old unknown me was clearly nowhere on their mind. Once I banished those thoughts I had a better time out in public.
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